There are increasingly more options out there for women who want to intentionally choose the type of people who will support her during her pregnancy and childbirth. The initial options that come to mind include a doctor, a midwife, a doula and a birth partner. And, there’s an infinite number of ways that you can carve out and create your relationships with these types of individuals.
When someone is pregnant for the second time, she has the information about how she thought and felt during the first pregnancy and childbirth. Debi, during her first birth experience, discovered that she felt most at peace when it was just her and her husband in the hospital room. It was a busy night at the hospital and they were frequently left to themselves. When the hospital staff did come in the room, Debi experienced it as an interruption to the flow and peace they created when they were alone.
Debi’s second pregnancy comes along 5 years later and Debi knew she wanted to create a different kind of experience. She contacted a couple of mid-wives. Neither of them worked out – one, with whom Debi had a great connection wasn’t available and the second, didn’t represent a good connection in Debi’s view. She refused to compromise. She wanted to feel totally comfortable and at peace with her choice of care. So, now what? She wanted to give birth at home.
She looked to an option that many of us might not even consider to be a possibility. She began to research the idea of doing it on her own. Read the rest of this entry »
